Computer woes have plagued me for several weeks now. There have been revivals of the operating system and then again old Sparky has taken to intermittent long snoozes and right now that's where we are. A whiz in the field will take a look at his innards and see if there is any life in the old fellow or if the time has come to give him a "well done" and be done with it.
Some happy adventures in the handwriting world have passed by too. Some speeches to groups, several analyses and some big projects too.
If you have been a reader of the material I have included here you well know there is a lot more to analyzing handwriting than a cursory look might suggest. There is a great deal to take in when first looking at a sample. Many times I have felt overwhelmed and said, under my breath, "I have to pull a person out of this."
At that point, I move away from my desk, take the sample to some quiet place, and spend several minutes just looking at it. I may make a few notes if any characteristics really pop out. I start writing down random impressions, which almost always are confirmed once I start measuring the sample. That has come after years of practice, much like a medical professional who can put pieces of evidence together pretty quickly. It isn't guesswork at all. But it is a puzzle, for sure. The pieces fit in time.
Some samples are so definitive the whole thing comes together very quickly.
Recently I saw a note received by a coaching client of mine (who has given me permission to relate this.) It was from a relative who lives a long way from her. She asked me to look at the handwriting. I had heard the note writer express herself in a public business forum so I knew she held very strong opinions. I was not at all surprised to see several characteristics (biting wit, a quick mind, extreme unyieldingness, and non-frank communication) that suggested it would not be easy for my client to be around her. She is an honest, gentle soul who seeks peace at any cost.
Something bothered her about the note but she couldn't put her finger on it. Of course, after I read the content I also 'read' the handwriting. The handwriting told the real story of the poison behind the pen—the kind that would kill one's spirit slowly.
The writer is ready and willing to challenge the ideas of anyone, or in the end, likely she would suggest any good idea that came to fruition had originated from her. And she is extremely skillful at turning things around to make someone else feel guilty if they don't work out.
Although she masks the tendency, she is very very sensitive to receiving personal criticism. She 'gets' others before they 'get' her. She implied something in the content that was subtlely manipulative, skillfully aimed at pushing the buttons of the receiver. The receiver missed it or didn't really want to face that this other woman wants nothing good for her. Maybe the sick stomach that demands medication each time they are together is enough to warn her that some folks are better out of your life than in it.
It is good to take inventory once in a while to see if anyone is stealing your joy.