Have you ever left a conversation feeling that it had been hollow? I had that experience many years ago when I took a young woman I knew to lunch, which ended up to be a very long one. We ate at a small place that allowed for privacy and that is the reason I chose it. My guest was a bit nervous, as though trying to make a good impression. Maybe that is what accounted for the breathless pace of her speech and the nonstop talking. She was not given to asking questions, not before then, then, or later.
We parted in the parking lot and as I drove home I had a surprising feeling of emptiness. Why was I so tired? I had spoken very little. I couldn't put my finger on why until sometime later. Even then it was hard to articulate the feeling.
Much later I read a fiction story that zeroed in on it.
In the story the main character, a woman, had worked at a school for 8 years. She had found help for her retarded child. (Her quest for that was the core of the book.) She came in the office to tell the head man, with whom she had worked closely, of the family decision to go back to their home state. His reaction?
She narrates her story, as follows:
"He cleared his throat and expressed that he was not certain why she was leaving to go back to the South. "Perhaps you're returning to your family…"
"I have no family out there," I cut in. I swallowed and said, I was orphaned at age eleven."
"Okay, he said. "Oh."
And I saw only then how thin this relationship had actually been all these years: he knew nothing of me, only that I had been a teacher once, two or three lives before this one."
So, here is the test. If you ever walk away from a lengthy conversation knowing nothing more about the other person's life or doings than when you started you will have to own up to having talked more about you than him or her.
What does this have to do with handwriting? Answer: HW speaks so much about how a person communicates—how clearly, how directly, how sincerely and even how much. It is brain-writing after all.